"MascFishing"

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  1. Jaa

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    This can act as a counterpoint of sorts to previously linked article Butching Up Online: A Dating Experiment in that the author notes but doesn't chastise the common preference for masculine men on dating apps. He actually says that, in a way, he may have catfished someone by only adding photos of himself doing traditionally masculine things (drinking beer, attending football games) while declining to add ones featuring fruity cocktails or his beloved tight jean shorts. Interesting to see someone note the masculine preference while not attacking its existence, and even admitting to possibly consciously manipulating his image in order to attract more attention.

    You've Heard Of Catfishing — But What About #Mascfishing?
     
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    #mascfishing isn't anything new it's been around when I was dating. If you're a masculine guy looking for another masculine guy you gotta really interrogate and analyze any perspective date. Because dudes will try to fool you. Even when you try to screen people sometimes you'll still get surprised. I don't get why they even attempt it. Masculinity is not something one can fake.
     
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    I think the real is that a lot of gay men have murked the waters of what masculinity is. N Im over it. Being the least fem of ur crew now qualifies mofos to be 'the masc one'. Its like there's a new category called 'gay masculine' smh.
     
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    I personally don't always perceive whether or not someone is masculine or feminine based on their interests. If someone like the Rock loved Beyonce and sang it in his car everyday on the way to work, I would still consider him masculine because his other mannerisms, talk/movement are still masculine. Likewise, I've met plenty of stereotypically feminine women who love football and basketball and follow it more closely than some men. I would still consider them feminine because their general mannerisms are still feminine. I'm not so caught up in how masculine a dude is as I was when I was younger, but the best way to figure out someone's mannerisms is to talk on the phone. You can easily figure out if someone is trying to mask a gay voice.
     
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    Yea this cracks me up how guys will make it seem like in their profile that they are masculine. I have gotten played several times lol. For me I would try to Skype with them or talk on the phone which gave me a better idea about this. But even then sometimes I got fooled lol. Too many guys do this because that's what desired in the community. It's unfortunate because it convinces some guys that they can't be themselves.
     
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    I don't particularly care if guys are masculine or feminine. I like them for whatever they bring to the table. Most of the times if I can hold a great conversation with them, we have some things in common, and he has a decent sex appeal to me, I am copacetic.
     
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    Hello Everyone,

    I hope I am not off-topic with my thoughts on this, but here goes......

    My take on this "masc-fishing" thing is that many of us are still "blinded" by our upbringing and societal expectations of masculinity. We are comfortable with its affiliated acceptance levels. It makes us feel like alright with ourselves. However, at the end of the day and in the confines of one's personal space, the true us is revealed. I am that guy. Now, when that happens and how it plays out, depends upon how deep the conversations were well before the time of reckoning comes. We may present one way to appeal to the interest of another, but that is just the first contact. Conversations must be held up front and be personal to share one's likes and dislikes.

    As for me, "masc-fishing" is no fault of my own. Many will read my profile and/or listen to how deep my voice is and make assumptions that I am "the man of their dreams". And, that is fine, but I am a man as I am attracted to men who, regardless of their sexual positions, can allow me to be me in the most private of times. I relish in the dreams of connecting with someone who understands that we are men with a myriad of sexual appetites and desires. As a matter of fact, one who is, in the true sense of being versatile, paves the way for a more rewarding connection and relationship.

    Last, rest assured, I am well-grounded and established in this so-called life. However, I am not out fully...only to close family members. My personal life is never opened to others. One shouldn't have to reveal one's orientation outside of their circle of security.

    Thanks!
     

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