Kiki n’ Brunch
As my blogging history suggets, I usually don’t subscribe to and reject the cult of HIV activism and LGBTQ PrEP awareness; for reason that can be reviewed at: Is Gay Culture Normalizing HIV? National HIV Testing Day; Who Cares? Does HIV Really Matter Anymore? Despite…
Primary Care for Men who have Sex with Men (MSM)
As a doctor (who happens to be a longtime Cypher Avenue member), I suppose I should have said something sooner. But I think now is as good time as any. Primary care is integral to your health. Just like maintenance is important for your…
I’m Not a F**king Queer
As I’ve notice in the last couple of years more and more African-American bloggers have latched onto and adopted the term ‘queer’. Personally I cannot overstate enough the disdain and disgust I have for this word. I understand the not-so-distant history behind the usage of…
Textbook Example of How Gay Mainstream Media Continues to Push Negative Gay Stereotypes
The Logo channel has a new dating / bachelor style show, Finding Prince Charming that features a main bachelor (Price Charming Robert Sepúlveda) and a number of suitors vying for the final spot on his arm. In reality TV land, this is cool…in real life,…
Remembering Discreet City: Five Years Later
In exactly two weeks, we will be celebrating our 5th Anniversary of blogging for the community. Five years. Wow. And many people thought (and wished) that we would not make it this long.
Is Your Religion Keeping You From Finding a Good Man?
Even though I’m not in the dating game, I still partake in reading and loosely discussing dating, relationships and sex related subject matter on social media and blogs. Something that I’ve noticed (outside of the “No Fats, No Fems” conversations) that is NEVER talked about…
Fat Joe says Biggie’s song was about former Knick Anthony Mason
One mystery that has been on the minds of hip-hop heads for years has been, who was the famous New York Knick referenced in The Notorious B.I.G’s 1997 track “I Got A Story To Tell”? The answer to that question has finally been revealed by…
Is This a Power Bottom Gay Pride Sex Kit?
A very similar pic to the one above was posted within a social media group I subscribe to. My first reaction was YUCK, is this a power bottom gay pride sex kit? Then I thought, “You know what? These rolling condoms over bananas demonstrations and…
Black Panther is Back
It’s April and the new Black Panther comic written by acclaimed author Ta-Nehisi Coates is here. The comic comes out weeks before we will finally see the live action King of Wakanda appear in Captain America’s Civil War. Coates breaks down his thoughts and methods…
Super Tuesday is Here: Bernie Sanders Supporters Have A Problem, Her Name is Hillary
Bernie Sanders supporters have a problem. Super Tuesday is upon us. Their Presidential candidate is looking to lose the nomination just as the voting has just begun.
Gay Men Living With Health & Medical Issues, More Common Than We Think
Health Issues, Medical Conditions, Aches and Pains are so very common yet people often think they are the only ones silently having to deal with them… it can seriously affect confidence, especially with socializing and dating.
How Can I Be Down? A Bisexual Black Man’s Take on “The Down Low”
The notion that black men on the “DL” are categorically bi is a gross oversimplification of the issue, and it shows little understanding for the way black men navigate their sexuality and identity.
A Real Examination of Racism and Gay Dating Apps
A popular heterosexual social media personality that I follow, solicited Black homo/bisexual male volunteers to discuss gay dating apps. He wanted to know of experiences when interacting with white or Black men, first dates, any loves lost, racism, etc. I’ve been in a committed relationship…
[QUESTION] Single Black Gay Men: Why Do You Even WANT To Be In A Relationship?!
If all the examples and discussions we have about Relationships are from a negative perspective, why do so many single black gay men want to be in one so badly?
That Time I Was “Reverse Slut Shamed” By A Black Gay Man
Yesterday I was speaking with a friend on the phone and I experienced something that has happened many times before. I was reverse slut shamed. Out of respect, I won’t say the friend’s real name but for now let’s just call him “Schmocky Schmilliams.” Just…
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