This post was originally going to be about married heterosexual Georgia Pastor Craig Davis who was arrested for allegedly spreading HIV to his church mistresses and presumably his wife.  As I begin to think about what to write, my thoughts shifted into another direction.

According to CDC and Census data in 2009…
Marriage rate: 6.8 per 1,000 total population
Divorce rate: 3.4 per 1,000 population (44 reporting States and D.C.)

Kim Kardashian: 2nd marriage, lasted 72 days
Chad Johnson (OchoCinco): 1st marriage, lasted 41 days

Okay the CDC and the U.S. Census didn’t have Ms. Kardashian’s or Mr. Johnson’s marriage stats on their website. I just threw those in there to make a point, which is…

Many marriages are rushed into, dysfunctional and many will end in divorce.  Even if the relationship doesn’t end, there are plenty of couples who remain together in unhappy and loveless marriages.

A 2001 report suggest that, 33% of first marriages end within 10 years and 43% end within 15 years. While 75% of the divorced women remarried, 47% of those remarriages dissolve within 10 years

Every election cycle, gays and abortion are the go to wedge issues that political platforms are made of.  We have been inundated with messages from the far right that “if gays are allowed to get married, it will destroy the sanctity of marriage” and televangelist who will have you believe that “homosexuality is destroying the American family.”


If an alien from another planet were to land in America and witness the rhetoric about gays “destroying the family unit”; they would think that marriage is a harmonious fragile institution that homosexuals are decimating with a simple apocalyptic snap of the finger.

Never mind the hypocritical superior thought that exists throughout many on the conservative far right and within the religious communities which is “do as I say and not as I do”.

For some strange reason, many heterosexuals seem to think that having numerous children out of wedlock, domestic violence, drug addiction, alcoholism, incest, molestation, financial irresponsibility and rampant infidelity are somehow great examples of “making the family unit stronger” and thus building upon the bedrock that is the “Sanctity of Marriage”.

Of course there are plenty of long lasting happy marriages and relationships.  I am sure for the most part this is due to the open and ethical individuals within them.  

As with any type of intimate relationship (friendship, hetero or homosexual) trust, honesty and communication are just some of the tools that make relationships strong and lasting.  Not the participants sexuality.

That “do as I say and not as I do” mentality, seems to make some think they can bypass their own actions and responsibilities. It also seems to allow their personal opinions and beliefs to facilitate discrimination onto others.  

We are bombarded with the message that homosexuality is a sinful abomination but the heterosexual abominations as it relates to marriage are conveniently over looked by the marriage mouth puppets.

I say if you vote to ban gay marriage, and make marriage a constitutional amendment between one man and one woman, you also have to include an addendum for the death penalty to be imposed in said marriages if infidelity occurs in accordance with Leviticus 20:10 which reads…“And the man that committeth adultery with another man’s wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbor’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death”.

See, gay folk can quote the bible too and not just when it’s convenient.

Heterosexuals; I don’t think you have to worry about homosexuals destroying families and the sanctity of marriage. I think you are already doing a fantastic job at it.