“The Gay Agenda” Worked: How The Media Convinced Me That Interracial is the Way To Go
Before we begin, I’ll offer you a choice. You take the blue pill, this blog post ends and you go on believing whatever you want to believe.
You take the red pill, you stay on the Avenue and I show you just how deep the white rabbit’s hole goes (see what I did there).
Remember, all I’m offering is the truth:
The Gay Agenda is everywhere.
It is all around us. Even now on this very website. You can see it when you look out your window. Or when you turn on your television. You can feel it when you go to work. When you go to church. When you pay your taxes.
With that out of the way, let me be clear: I’m a gay black man who loves black men.
However, I’m no Hotep, I believe that Love is Love and as hard as it is to find compatibility, if you can do it with someone outside of your race, have at it.
In the past, I have defended interracial couples on this site and tried to dispel the narrative that successful black gay men hardly ever date fellow black gay men.
But there is power in the images that are put out into mainstream media for the world to see.
I’m a massive consumer of media: film, television, streaming, social media, you name it. I’m always keeping up with the latest content being created.
This brings me to Netflix’s upcoming holiday movie, “Single All The Way.”
Black gay men are seemingly so undesirable that even when the main character is best friends with one (who is super well-manicured and loved by their entire family) the gays will still look past him and hunt for a white hunk on Grindr.
We’re a long way from the black gay couple depicted in the Emmy Award winning Netflix series “I May Destroy You.” Wasn’t it romantic when their relationship ended in rape?
Sexual assault, super cute! Hashtag = GOALS!
We’re a long way from Academy Award winning Moonlight where Chi’ron’s lover Kevin romantically beat his ass in front of the entire school (a couple that technically never actually dated, but black gays shipped them nonetheless):
Awww, how sweet…your boyfriend nearly beating you to death. XOXO
We’re an even longer way from Kaldrick King and Tariq in The LA Complex, who at the time were groundbreaking for depicting a complex (pun intended) black gay couple whom many black gay men could identify with one or both of the characters.
Awww, so romantic…It was super adorable when Kaldrick nearly beat Tariq to death…
Anyone else notice a trend? Ah, the good old days of black gay men and toxic masculinity (sarcasm, folks).
But that was then and this is now.
Here in the now, we have this couple from the Candyman remake:
And this couple from Marvel’s The Eternals:
And this couple from Amazon’s Modern Love:
And this couple from CBS’ Star Trek: Discovery:
And this couple from Neflix’s Hollywood:
This couple from Netflix’s Dear White People:
This couple from HBO’s Watchmen:
This couple from Tyler Perry’s The Haves and Have Nots:
Even comic books:
Much like the concept of “cancel culture,” I have never been one to subscribe in the idea of “The Gay Agenda.”
My explanation for this phenomenon has always been, “if white content creators are primarily making the content featuring gay couples, it makes sense that they would lean towards interracial relationships since these are stories from their perspectives.”
This theory doesn’t explain The L.A. Complex (created by white filmmakers). It also doesn’t explain the Candyman remake, created by black filmmakers. Or Dear White People, created by a black gay queer filmmaker.
Maybe I’m reading too much into it. These are all just coincidences, right?
Being fair, there are *some* black gay couples depicted out there in the mainstream media. If we’re not counting the many soft-core porn black gay web series to choose from, I’ve seen a few pop up here and there:
But in a sea of content featuring white gay men dating white gay men, there seems to be a dearth of mainstream content featuring black gay men dating black gay men.
Not even to mention that when we do get black couples, they feature violence. Can that also just be a coincidence?
Oh sure, the diversity boxes are being checked by adding the one black guy or the one latino guy or the one “other” biracial guy for the white boyfriend…But in the days of Black Lives Mattering, Black Couples seemingly do not.
Let’s even eliminate the whole masculine and feminine thing from this discussion. At this point, I would welcome stereotypes like Blaine and Antoine from In Living Color, at least then I would see a couple that (somewhat) looks like me.
Okay, maybe that was going a little too far.
Despite the clickbait title, these depictions of interracial couples in the media have not turned me away from dating black men. However, I gotta admit that I feel like the interracial couples are being normalized to society more than black couples.
And I’ll reiterate: This examination is not about saying black men should only date black men. If you notice, I never even brought up the plethora of black gay celebrities and their white and/or latino husbands. Love is love, do you bro.
I’m really sticking to the FICTIONAL characters that are created, casted and filmed for entertainment. Is it really that much of a stretch to cast a black boyfriend for that black gay character?
Say what we will about (the gay Tupac) Jussie Smollett, before he was fired from Empire he refused to allow his character Jamal Lyon to date a white man saying:
“There was talk about Jamal having a white boyfriend,” Smollett recalled. “And I said, ‘Fuck no!’ Not for any reason, except we have a responsibility and we have a such a beautiful opportunity to show two black men in a relationship together, in a healthy relationship.”
You know how when you get a new car you start seeing other people driving that same make and model car everywhere you go? No matter how you feel on this issue, I promise you this:
Now that I’ve given you the red pill, you will not be able to un-see all of the interracial gay couples depicted in the media.
Gay Agenda cheat code unlocked.
I've noticed this for years. Black gay men and often times black lesbians are placed with non-black partners to appeal to a wider audience. Folks can't fathom that two black queer folks would ever be together.
And in defense of Dear White People. The last season was trash, but the black gay character did end up with another black man. So there's that at least.
It’s been a very long time since I visited the site and after reading this I was reminded why I stop…..I’ve tried to be supportive of this site but I find a lot of the views expressed by the moderators to have a slighted edge. If we’re going to address the gay media and black gay couples representation you did a damn good job of making the case to make black gay men to continue to feel there’s no place for them based on the example you provided. Yes the media, gay & straight, tends to always have a black gay character in relationships with non black men, but if where going to discuss the issue let’s also present the times TV did get it right:
Council of Dads: Oliver & Peter
J. August Richards
Empire: Jamal & Kia
9-1-1: Michael & David
La Monde Byrd
The Wire: Omar & Dante
Michael K. Williams
Lovecraft Country: Montrose and Sammy
Michael K. Williams
Jon Hudson Odom
Pose: Ricky & Damon / Ricky & Pray Tell
Ryan Jamaal Swain
Greenleaf: Carlton and Reggie
Parnell Damone Marcano
and let’s not forget the whole cast of Noah’s ARC, this maybe a small sample but it’s something.
So you included his own examples of exceptions to the rule in your list… telling… AND included Empire, which he already explained only didn’t have a white Love Interest because Smollet specifically fought against it… Pose and Noah’s Arc were shows specifically about lgbt minorities created as an answer to exclusion, almost entirely because of the lack of visibility of minority communities in gay entertainment and by design focused on characters of color in relationships with other characters of color, so hardly a fair inclusion… The Wire… really? If we’re going back that far then we are drowning in film and TV that exclude black gay men altogether, much less interracial relationships that include us. Lovecraft… does that even count? Seeing as how he wouldn’t even have been able to be with a white man due to the racism of the time, and it’s almost canceled out anyway with your girl and her lesbian trysts with a white woman only after becoming white herself… But you can have 911 and Council of Dads as just 2 more exceptions that prove the rule when you come and list a dubious 6 or 7 shows versus innumerable shows, movies, ads, posters, sites, etc where anytime a black man appears he is FAR more often than not, with a man or woman who is not black. It is just the truth. And that’s fine if it worked that way for every race, but it does not and that is obvious for anyone with eyes. This is nothing new, so I don’t even understand what your point is… Shit, go watch Dekkoo, HereTV… Tubi’s free, do a head count. First, find a black man, then when you do take a look at who he’s dating, if he’s allowed. The vast majority will not be black men, unless its specifically produced “FUBU”… That’s just fact. Gettin salty and threatening to never come back here doesn’t negate this.
Sorry I have not been on here in a while. it has been a Hell of two years (understatement) with everything going on (lost family to covid) and trying to get my head around things. I have noticed this for sometime. I really, really, really love Noah's Arc! It's depiction of black gay couple's brought a smile to my face and I loved all the character's.
Yeah, I constantly complain about it, for both fiction and celebrities. I mean, we can all admit that life imitates art, and that might explain why we see so many of these i’racial couples in real life. Sucks, but you are definitely not the only person who has picked up on (and annoyed by) this.
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"However, I gotta admit that I feel like the interracial (gay) couples are being normalized to society more than black (gay) couples."