12 Things I’ve Learned in My Journey to Fatherhood
My partner and I have made the plunge into fatherhood. This essay is specific to my experience being a black man, married to another black man, pursuing gestational surrogacy.
Much Ado About Nothing :The Importance of Self-Confidence
Like Shakespeare’s play, “Much Ado About Nothing”, navigating your way through gay society, could be equally challenging. It can be difficult when you try to maintain your sense of self while trying to cater or accommodate to a particular crowd. Sometimes your values and self-confidence can…
Your Gym Habits Are Disgusting!
I walked into the gym locker room and headed towards the urinals to take a leak and saw multiple barefooted men walking through tricolor liquids on the tiled floor that consisted of clear, brown and yellow wetness. While resting between sets, I saw a dude…
I Have Nothing In Common With The Black Men In My Family *Insert Sad Face Emoji*
I have a lot of men in my family. One brother, a few uncles, some nephews and a whole bunch of cousins. I love them all, but I really don’t have a lot in common with any of them.
GAY FRIENDS: How Many Of Us Have Them?
I think I lost another gay friend this year, I’m def partially to blame but not 100%…
I Want Sex. My Husband Doesn’t. We’ve Hit a Dry Spell
Hey Cypher Ave Fam, So I recently been experiencing a dilemma in my relationship/marriage. We hit a dry spell and I can’t figure out what the problem is, although we are both markedly busier. We’ve always been busy and had full schedules but that…
Squad Member Letters to the Cypher Avenue Editors – Volume #1
We’re starting a new series called “Letters to the Editors” where either Octavius Williams or myself, Nick Delmacy, will post select emails and respond to them if needed.
What I Learned When I Quit My Job Without Notice
I had another job already landed…but I had to wait on the background check to clear. I’m not one to play my hand in these matters until I know that it’s a sure thing.
Should I Get Back Together With My Ex?
Dear Cypher Avenue, I’m a 26 year top and was recently contacted by my 26 year old ex. He wants to get back to team “us”; meaning start over and build into a new relationship. When we were together in the past, we were only…
How Do I Come Out To My Mom?
Dear Cypher Ave, I’m a 22 year old gay kid from NJ. I need some advice. I want to come out to my mom but don’t know how to. Every time I want to tell her the words won’t come out my mouth. I think…
The E. Lynn Harris Complex
I am no stranger to a good book, especially when It comes to fiction/fantasy genres. The late E. Lynn Harris is notably one of the best writers of our time for this particular genre who catered to our community’s need for excitement, passion, mystery, and…
How Do I Deal With A Messy Fem Co-Worker?
This week we tackle a common problem that many gay men have had to deal with in the work place….The Messy Fem Co-Worker. Dear Ocky, I’ve been a periodic reader of your site since the Discreet City days. I don’t engage in the ‘scene’ and…
Where Are The Masculine Gay Leaders of Color?
Cypher Avenue did ask for some unique and different questions for our Advice Column and the below question from a social media reader did have me perplexed and somewhat at a sad loss. This is a very interesting question and I think input from…
We Just Starting Dating and Already He Wants A Gift
It’s been awhile since Cypher Avenue had an ongoing advice “column”. Even though I was spearheading this idea, the questions that we kept receiving were becoming very similar and one dimensional. Mostly relationship and sex questions that were answered in numerous posts already published on…
An Openly Gay Life Coach Gives Advice To Cypher Avenue And Its Readers
Life coach, Gerry Fisher details his experience as a openly gay Caucasian man being introduced to Cypher Avenue for the first time, giving both positive and negative opinions on the articles, the writing and what/who the site seeks to represent.
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