12 Things I’ve Learned in My Journey to Fatherhood
My partner and I have made the plunge into fatherhood. This essay is specific to my experience being a black man, married to another black man, pursuing gestational surrogacy.
GAY FRIENDS: How Many Of Us Have Them?
I think I lost another gay friend this year, I’m def partially to blame but not 100%…
CA Podcast #55 – The “Happy 5th Birthday” Episode
In this Extra Long anniversary podcast, hosts Octavius Williams and Nick Delmacy celebrate their 5th year of running the website, Cypher Avenue, planning a possible birthday party, and they open the mailbag to answer advice questions from Squad Members that they’ve received over the years.
I Want Sex. My Husband Doesn’t. We’ve Hit a Dry Spell
Hey Cypher Ave Fam, So I recently been experiencing a dilemma in my relationship/marriage. We hit a dry spell and I can’t figure out what the problem is, although we are both markedly busier. We’ve always been busy and had full schedules but that…
What “Issues” Do You Need To Work On About Yourself in 2016?
What are some that you’ve been working on, want to work on or have been told that you need to work on about yourself?
Former Montana State football Shares His Coming Out Story
“The end to my football career was bittersweet, because I finally felt it was time to stop hiding who I was. I started talking to guys using online dating apps to possibly meet with others who identified themselves as gay. Once I even brought a…
10 First Date Deal Breakers For Gay Men
A lot of people think gay dudes are finicky and maybe that is true to some extent however, I still there are probably a number of universal first date deal breakers that are exclusively linked exclusively to gay men.
What I Learned When I Quit My Job Without Notice
I had another job already landed…but I had to wait on the background check to clear. I’m not one to play my hand in these matters until I know that it’s a sure thing.
2 Phrases Dudes Must Stop Saying When Using Dating Apps
In our recent podcast, Cypher Ave discussed navigating dating mobile apps. Part of the intent wasn’t just to dialogue about our own experiences but to also examine short comings and possible areas of improvement men can use to make their involvement when using apps…
Purple Haze and “(No) Homo” Ways in my School Daze
This blog is in response to Ocky Williams’ Raymond Helped Me Realize I Was Homo. We all have some insight about who we are and it is clear that, for some of us, the paths toward who we are were paved by stories written…
Should I Get Back Together With My Ex?
Dear Cypher Avenue, I’m a 26 year top and was recently contacted by my 26 year old ex. He wants to get back to team “us”; meaning start over and build into a new relationship. When we were together in the past, we were only…
How Do I Come Out To My Mom?
Dear Cypher Ave, I’m a 22 year old gay kid from NJ. I need some advice. I want to come out to my mom but don’t know how to. Every time I want to tell her the words won’t come out my mouth. I think…
How Do I Deal With A Messy Fem Co-Worker?
This week we tackle a common problem that many gay men have had to deal with in the work place….The Messy Fem Co-Worker. Dear Ocky, I’ve been a periodic reader of your site since the Discreet City days. I don’t engage in the ‘scene’ and…
Where Are The Masculine Gay Leaders of Color?
Cypher Avenue did ask for some unique and different questions for our Advice Column and the below question from a social media reader did have me perplexed and somewhat at a sad loss. This is a very interesting question and I think input from…
Dr. Strangelove or: How I Learned To Stop Worrying and Love The Joys of Being Single
“Life is short. Life is Dull. Life is full of pain and this is a chance for something special.” Casual Dating. This seems to be a foreign concept in the gay community. Oh sure, many people do it but good luck getting them to publicly…