Black Gay Queer Feminists Want to Eliminate Masculinity

By OckyDub | Posted May 5 2016 | 33 Comments  

wade davis

“Right now the Black gay community is teaching Black gay men how to be better women.”

I made this statement a couple of days ago on Cypher Ave’s message forums page after reading former NFL gay player now Queer activist, Wade Davis’ Ebony article.

I recently scanned his TedTalk posted on Ebony.com where he made some good points BUT what stood out to me was what he stated in the description surrounding the video.

“Growing up, I loved that people saw me as a masculine man. I loved the power, the access, the respect and the perceived safety that masculinity provided me. So in late 2015, when the University of Florida asked me to give a Ted style talk at their 2016 TedX Conference in March, I decided to call it “The Mask of Masculinity.”

As I wrote in my recent essay explaining, why more Black men should be feminists, I wanted to use personal narrative to highlight the big problem with masculinity. Here’s a hint: It’s NOT real.

We raise young boys to wear a mask of toughness in order to be a man, and we rob them of their childhood and their innocence.

Masculinity is a performance and a mask we, men, wear to shield ourselves from pain, and the performance of masculinity never ever means freedom and self-love. It’s time to get free.

Reading his article, viewing the video and understanding the context, I agree; many men wear masks. In conjunction to this, recalling the collective vlogs and articles out there from Black Queer (male and female) Feminist activists; I’m going to double down on my statement that, “right now the Black gay community is teaching Black gay men how to be better women.”

PapasDaySq-heels

For feminist like Wade Davis to say “Masculinity is NOT REAL” and “It’s time to get free of masculinity”, is reprehensible and dangerous. Feminist and black gay queers are now crossing over the threshold and saying masculinity is false and the only way to a fulfilling true authentic self is to erase and free yourself from it. By saying this, queer feminist are saying something is wrong with masculinity.

These statements are disgusting.

Almost everyone wears or has worn masks. This is not something unique to men or masculinity. As the Black gay community continues to align itself with feminists and self-identifying queers, this misguided disingenuous group think will continue to proliferate until their ultimate goal is achieved; the eradication of all things masculine. Except for masculine lesbians and transgender men; for this class masculinity is allowed and empowering.

I’ve been hearing for years that masculine gay or same gender loving men are pretending, faking, self-hating, homosexual internalizing homophobes who are not living in their truths. They’re going about this “gay thing” all wrong.

I’m beyond sick and tired of these mainstream feminist gay queer activists (who dictate and control the narrative) saying that my maleness and existence is wrong. This is no different than the heterosexual community telling me my sexuality is wrong and I’m an unnatural abomination. This is in the same line of thinking that says if I just submit and conform to their way of thinking (adopting their religion, repenting, praying the gay away, get a wife and start a family) that all will be right within my spirit.

The same way I reject and don’t kneel to pray at that heterosexual altar; I will not kneel and pray at the altar of queer feminism. I reject the preaching that my masculinity, pride in maleness and way of life is unnatural because I’m not living within the Queendom of their brand of homosexuality.

Western Feminism will always have its roots with heterosexual white females and the women’s right movement of the early 20 century. Which mean its roots are in heteronormativity.

As I stated in the article Black Gay Coons, many gay men exhibit exaggerated hyper-effemininity because they have been influenced or conditioned by gay culture and media narratives that this is how the male homosexual is to behave or conduct themselves.

Will these self-identifying queers ever tackle and discuss the negative qualities of feminism? Will they ever address the destructive mask wearing everyday performances of exaggerated hyper-effemininity that saturates gay cultures and lifestyles?

PapasDaySq-myth

Dear feminist and queer feminist, there’s a reason you’ll most likely never hear someone say “femininity is a myth” or “it’s not real”…because that would be stupid and insulting to women and naturally effeminate men.

Pro-masculine Cypher Avenue (by extension our podcast) has and will continue to discuss toxic or hyper-masculinity and its negative impacts. I have yet to witness the same type of public scrutiny, critique or any self-retrospection by queer feminist of feminism, even though it’s much needed and past do.

What are they afraid of?

 

 

 

About the Author
OckyDub

Octavius is a founder and editor of Cypher Avenue. He's here to help speak for us and show the world that masculine gay / bisexual men of color are not a part of the stereotypical gay normal that is seen and fed to the masses. No...we are a distinct breed, filled with character and pride. Cypher Avenue is here to show the world how we are different.

   
Categorized as :
Cypher Ave OriginalsFeaturedSlider

33 Comments Feel Free To Join The Cypher.

  1. Kouncelor
    Kouncelor | May 5th, 2016
    +1
  2. alton
    alton | May 5th, 2016
    +1
  3. Tyroc
    Tyroc | May 5th, 2016
    +3
    • J | May 10th, 2016
      0
  4. alton
    alton | May 5th, 2016
    0
  5. mojoreece
    mojoreece | May 5th, 2016
    0
  6. alton
    alton | May 5th, 2016
    0
  7. ControlledXaos
    ControlledXaos | May 5th, 2016
    0
  8. ColumbusGuy
    ColumbusGuy | May 5th, 2016
    0
  9. takeyourmeds91
    takeyourmeds91 | May 5th, 2016
    0
  10. OckyDub
    Ockydub | May 5th, 2016
    0
  11. OckyDub
    Ockydub | May 5th, 2016
    0
  12. ColumbusGuy
    ColumbusGuy | May 5th, 2016
    0
  13. ColumbusGuy
    ColumbusGuy | May 5th, 2016
    0
  14. Purple_Is_Wack
    Purple_Is_Wack | May 6th, 2016
    0
  15. Purple_Is_Wack
    Purple_Is_Wack | May 6th, 2016
    0
  16. SwagJack
    SwagJack | May 6th, 2016
    0
  17. OckyDub
    Ockydub | May 7th, 2016
    0
  18. FREEDOM TRAIN
    FREEDOM TRAIN | May 7th, 2016
    +1
  19. African King
    African King | May 8th, 2016
    0
  20. Rico | May 9th, 2016
    0
  21. Purple_Is_Wack
    Purple_Is_Wack | May 9th, 2016
    0
  22. J | May 10th, 2016
    0
  23. Aejae
    Aejae | May 11th, 2016
    0
  24. BlackguyExecutive
    BlackguyExecutive | May 11th, 2016
    0
  25. OckyDub
    Ockydub | May 11th, 2016
    0
  26. BlackguyExecutive
    BlackguyExecutive | May 11th, 2016
    0
  27. OckyDub
    Ockydub | May 11th, 2016
    0
  28. BlackguyExecutive
    BlackguyExecutive | May 11th, 2016
    0
  29. Jeremy Carter Powell
    Jeremy Carter Powell | May 16th, 2016
    0
  30. JD | June 10th, 2016
    0
  31. OckyDub
    Ockydub | June 11th, 2016
    0
    • JD | June 18th, 2016
      0




You can add images to your comment by CLICKING HERE.


Want to add BOLD or Underlined Text? CLICK HERE    |    To See The Comments Section Rules, CLICK HERE