I have heard the stories and shared in many of the reminisced feelings. Growing up wishing you could be straight. Praying for God to “take the gay” away. I am so happy those days are over and far in the my past. However I am still aware of many adult homosexual men who wish they were heterosexual.
The question of the week is simple…
If you offered a pill that could make you completely heterosexual, would you take it?
Can you honestly answer yes or no?
I have finally embarrassed that fact that this is a part of who I am. It is not a bad thing. I understand that it does not define me in my entirety but is a part of my definition. The challenges that I face as a gay man strengthen me as do the challenges I face as a black man. It has helped me to be a more open minded person and think on a broader spectrum. I just hope to further grow into a man my children can be proud of. Even if scientifically possible, I will not allow a pill to change who I am.
No: it’s a fundamental part of me that has shaped my personality. If I hadn’t grown up gay, I’d be a completely different person. You can go on thinking all day about what might have been, but I think in order to stay sane, you gotta accept how things have turned out and just try to get on with enjoying life 🙂
I cannot imagine being anything other than a New Yorker, Black, health nut, artist, so I could not conceive of ever being straight. It isn’t, nor has it ever been who I am. I would have to answer no to that question. Taking the pill would imply that there was something wrong with me to begin with. It took me years to become comfortable in my own skin aside from my sexuality. If there is a pill to overcome shyness, I’d stand in line for it in a heartbeat. In all honesty, If asked the very same question in my teen years, I would probably have a different response.
I would take the pill without any reservations! I would take the pill even if it cost a million dollars!
Kashun I am very sorry to hear this too.However I can’t judge you because I don’t know your reality or experiences that led you to feel this way.
HELL NO!
;-( @ Kashun ..i’m sorry to read that.
Although, I understand and would agree with everyone’s comment aforementioned, with the whole “I WOULDN’T TRADE NOTHING FOR MY JOURNEY” But in all truth, If I had to take a pill-I’d choose the RED-PILL every time!
I’m not sure honestly, but I lean more towards not taking it.
It took me 35 years to get relatively comfortable with my orientation. It was a journey fraught with all sorts of challenges that straight folks completely avoid. Overall, I am satisfied with who and what I am. If you offered me a pill to change at this juncture in my life, what would be the point? I’ve already emerged from most of the turmoil of this life and I’m in a good place now. But, if you would have made me the offer when I was say between the ages of 18–25??? I would have killed a Mutha F*cka to get that pill! No bullshit!
I’m truly glad some of you weren’t around during Slavery, Jim Crow or the Civil Rights Movement of the 60s. You’d probably be wishing you could take a pill to be a Caucasian Sharecropper…If you think that Heterosexuality is the solution to your depression/troubles, just take a look at all the miserable straight people in the world. They also have dating issues, they also have the risk of STDs, they also have relationships that they have to hide from others, they also have the worry of infidelities, they also have insecurities forcing them in to isolation and seclusion and many of them also end up alone in their senior years…But on TOP of all that they also have loveless marriages they feel trapped into, high divorce rates and they have the burden of accidental kids/families. So take your hypothetical pill and be just as unhappy as the rest of the of the straight married men tossing away their paychecks in strip clubs.
Damn Nick you went in on that point LOL
Good one no less…
I wouldn’t take the pill at this stage in my Life. Maybe during my teen years perhaps, but not in my 30s.. My experiences, and struggles have shaped the person I am today. Wouldn’t change a thing unless Life forced me to….
I’m glad that this pill isn’t real because I think everyone would have taken it before we became comfortable with who we were. And let’s face it, what is a world with out gay. (ahem… same gender loving) men! A straight world is a boring world. So to ANSWER the question. No… I would not take the pill.
Yikes! No way Jose!!!!
The answer to this question is an emphatic no.I love and embrace who I am so therefore I see no need to do such a thing.Would it make life easier? I really don’t know but this journey to self-acceptance has been a long and arduous one.I am very happy being who and what I am.
A few years ago, yes I would have taken the damn pill, but now, as I FINALLY began to accept myself and the fact that I am who I am supposed to be, I cant say that I would take that pill. Heterosexuality was not my fate for a reason, and I have no problem with spending the rest of my life enjoying that which is my fate, in something which allows me to love the way that I love.
This is a hard question because for the ones that haven’t accept themselves as homosexual (or even bisexual for that matter) are still trying to find it out. We don’t know a person’s story or struggle, but I stay prayful that in time things will get better. Personally, I’m on the point verge of fully accepting it, but I am doing it on my own terms. So would I take the pill? In this space of my life currently, I would
Man…I second that^^^ !! & full-on too..
I would think about it but I know I wouldnt. It would be a complete waste of medical science.
Honestly I would take the pill without a second thought! It would make life a lot less complicated no more fronts or worrying about who knows or think they know your gay… life would be so much easier!!
Reading Kashun and Rahiem’s responses make me sad in 2012 but I don’t know the struggles of those brothers. WOULDN’T TAKE THE PILL FOR A MILLION BUCKS…
I am up in the air on this one. I cannot fully answer this in good conscious. It is because of what I’ve learned over the years. It is whores in both the straight and gay world, so I really don’t see the difference. Whether you have a cheating girlfriend or a cheating boyfriend what’s the difference? She can’t get pregnant by somebody else and claim it’s yours and you will be on Maury, or you can have a boyfriend who sleeps around on you and brings you AIDS. So tell me, wtf is the difference? Taking care of a baby for 18 years that isn’t biological yours or dying of AIDS? This is such a complex issue because If I took the pill I’d probably want to take the pill to change back next week. LOL
My sexuality’s most definitely rooted into my childhood, and it definitely influenced the way I go about things in the present day (20; 21 in July), so I’m still discovering, still researching, & still experiencing from a young perspective.
I also feel like it made me understand love from a guy much more, seeing as how I’ve mostly been surrounded by women.
However, I have yet to feel a girl’s romantic embrace…hence why I’d probably lean towards the pill…
This question is a helluva stumper…
So in the end, I honestly wouldn’t kno.
At any rate…thanks for the honesty! The point was, to answer the question, it should make you examine yourself.
Feel free to always leave your feedback.
Ocky
In taking the pill, it’s like saying being gay is “wrong”. I have always been sick of str8’s who say “that’s not normal”. Normal is just the group consensus. If you are in a group of cannibals, and you won’t eat another human being, in that situation, you wouldn’t be “normal”. Best to accept and be yourself.