Oh this is a good one!
So you’re on the prowl on Grinder looking for a “no strings attached” hookup session. You find a candidate; go over to his home to release some sexual tension. Things begin to get hot and heavy. You two perform oral sex and engage in protected anal sex.
A couple of days later you tell one of your close friends about the encounter and you discover your close friend is aware of the gentleman you had your sexual encounter with. Not only that, your friend tells you this man is HIV positive.
Even though you two practiced protected anal sex, you did not practice protected oral sex. You confront your Grinder hookup and he confesses that; YES he is HIV positive.
This is a real life situation that happened between Nick Rhoades (pictured) and Adam Plendl. Once Adam found out he contacted police and Nick was arrested for criminal transmission of HIV a class B felony in Iowa, where the encounter occurred.
In a previous post we discussed, even though the chances are slim to none; HIV can still be spread via oral sex.
Multiple test have proven that Adam was not infected from the encounter but he said Nick should have disclosed his status and given him a choice whether or not the two should have had unprotected oral sex. Nick is a now registered sex offender and faces a statutory maximum sentence of 25 years in prison under Iowa law (you can read the details about the case here).
The Questions are…
-What would you do if you were in Adam’s position?
-Is 25 years in prison to harsh?
-If or when should someone disclose their HIV status?
-What would you do if you were in Adam’s position?
I’m against hookups, so I don’t partake in those kind of activities, however, advice that I’ve been given is that you should treat every hoookup as if they have HIV regardless if they have it or not.. because people lie.. So Adam should have taken this advice, and assumed that the man was HIV positive, and not have engaged in risky sex with him.. Although I do hear that oral with a condom on isn’t very pleasurable, then he shouldn’t do it with people he doesn’t know.
-Is 25 years in prison too harsh?
I don’t think that they should be put in prison at all, That isn’t stopping the problem at all. I think that the first thing that should happen if a person is convicted of this is that they should pay all of the medical fees associated with the people they infected, and if they infected no one, then they should still pay a hefty fine for engaging in a sexual act without disclosing their status.. if they cannot pay, then jail should be required.
-If or when should someone disclose their HIV status?
For a hookup, I don’t think it’s necessary. I say this because people should behave as if the person is already positive, and if people have an expectation that someone will disclose, then they will be caught off guard by someone who chooses not to disclose, so it’s best to just assume that everyone has it from the start.
Could not believe but got ma life going
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