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In this podcast we read a viewer’s email asking for relationship advice. Check out the letter below followed by my advice and commentary.

Dear Ocky,

Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 14 months. I’m 27 and he’s 41. With both work and own separate homes. We like to travel, have fun together doing different activities. Of course I wouldn’t be writing if there wasn’t a problem.

I’m not the most masculine person, I’m kinda in between but he’s very masculine. I’ve introduced him to my family and friends but whenever his family comes to town he will not introduce me to them. He has told me he is not out to his family because they are super religious. It doesn’t stop here. He also has a teenage son who lives out of state. Just like with the rest of his family I can’t come around when his son is in town.

The real reason I’m writing is because his son will be staying with him for two months over the summer. He said we’ll only be able to see each other about once a week. I don’t think this is fair.

How can you be over 40 and still in the closet or ashamed of who you are? We’re boyfriends but I feel like I’m being treated like a side piece. Is it because I’m not the most masculine person? I don’t know, at any rate, am I over reacting?