We here at Cypher Avenue may seem totally confident and secure in our articles and podcasts but we have just as many insecurities and life drama as the next man. We fuck up and make mistakes on a daily basis. We self evaluate and then contradict our previously held positions constantly. We’re evolving, hopefully in a good way.

No man will or can ever be perfect. No matter how masculine or stylish or handsome or wealthy or cultured or mature or stress-free that he’ll ever be, total contentment will always be his “white whale.” Something he will likely seek out until the day he dies.

Wishing or praying for heterosexuality as a gay man solves nothing, no matter your career, location or family situation. Even if Donnie McClurkin or Stephen Baldwin actually helped you make your hetero dream come true, you would just be trading one “problem” for others. Straight people have stress, depression and fear just as much as any gay man…If not more.

Be it sexuality, health issues, financial pressures, family drama and more…life deals all of us challenging cards.

Its how you face these issues that separates the men from the boys.

Consider the lyrics from the ever intellectual and introspective Lupe Fiasco on his song, “Words I Never Said”:

“I think that all the silence is worse than all the violence.

Fear is such a weak emotion,
That’s why I despise it
We scared of almost everything,
Afraid to even tell the truth.
So scared of what you think of me,
I’m scared of even telling you.
Sometimes I’m like the only person I feel safe to tell it to
I’m locked inside a cell in me,
I know that there’s a jail in you.

Consider this your bailing out, so take a breath, inhale a few.
My screams is finally getting free,
My thoughts is finally yelling through.”