Being Homophobic and Making Homophobic remarks are not the same thing
You are driving home alone and a man in the next lane not paying attention while talking on his cell phone cuts you off. The car he is driving has no bumper stickers or anything displayed in the back window or hanging from his rear…
Words and Definitions: GAY – I Really Don’t Like This Word
When I came to the realization that I was gay, I remember thinking what does this mean? Is this what I really am? I didn’t all of a sudden feel any different. I didn’t feel like my body or mind changed or that I went…
Advice Column: Confined to an Island of Loneliness
Dear Cypher Avenue, I‘m a 22-year-old, gay, Afro-Caribbean man living in the US Virgin Islands and I’m at my wits’ end in trying to find friendship and companionship. No visible community exists here and I doubt an underground community exists either. I lack confidants…
Men Threaten to Sue Sorority for Discrimination
The internet has been on fire with reports that a group of young black gay men (known as MIAKA – Men Interested in Alpha Kappa Alpha) are threatening to file a lawsuit against the Alpha Kappa Alpha (AKA) sorority (a private organization). The men are claiming homophobia and…
Is There a Stigma with Being Sexually Versatile?
One summer afternoon in 2004; my roommate, one of our mutual friends and I are drinking, smoking and cracking jokes while Enrique Cruz’s homo-thug porn movie “Off the Hook 2” plays in the foreground through the smoky haze. In one scene a sexy dude is…
Yes Guys, Dating Can Be Fun!
I authored a post months ago titled Looking for a Healthy Long Term Relationship. As the title suggest, in it I offered some advice and tips that could possibly aide in the search for those that were looking for a relationship I am currently…
Question of the Week: Black Men and Gay Marriage
Ever since our President has come out in favor of it; the topic of same sex marriage seems to now be issue number one with every major media and news outlet. I recently posted an opinion piece highlighting the struggles of the black community and…
How I Came Out To My Mother
In 1996 I was eighteen years of age. Jodeci’s “Freakin You” remix featuring Wu-Tang was coming from the speakers in my dorm room. Towel under the door, window open so the room would not be too cloudy with weed smoke. I am playing the fighting…
A Must See Panel Discussion: Black Manhood & Sexual Diversity!
I AM A MAN: Black Manhood & Sexual Diversity Panelists; Cleo Manago, Rev. Al Sharpton, Dr. Marc Lamont Hill, Esther Armah, Dr. R L’Heureux Lewis, Bishop John SeldersRarely discussed in a progressive informative format and even more elusively discussed in and by the black community. …
WATCH: “Soul Food Junkies” Trailer by Masculine Filmmaker Byron Hurt
Many of you masculine men may already be very familiar with heterosexual Documentary Filmmaker Byron Hurt. His previous two thought-provoking films have fastidiously examined the subject of Black American male masculinity. Now, with his new film “Soul Food Junkies”, he attempts to address the urgent…
Question Of The Week: Online profiles with the message “NO FEMS”
We all have seen the online profiles that mention or state “No Fems”. To a lot of effeminate men, this statement is offensive. I’m confused by the feminine men online who find this offensive but who are also themselves not sexually attracted to other feminine…
Words and Definitions: Masculine & Discreet, I’m Just Saying
Masculine: 1. pertaining to or characteristic of a man or men. 2. having qualities traditionally ascribed to men. 3. unwomanly. “Who made you the flag-bearer and authority on all things masculine?” the question was posed. No one had to bestow that occupation on me; I…
Hey White LGBT Community…Maybe I Can Help You Understand?
For a couple of weeks now, I have been reading articles via the internet that mentioned the leak of internal strategy memos from the conservative group National Organization for Marriage (NOM) and their opposition to gay marriage initiatives across the US. In a nutshell, a…
“Prototype 2” and “The Walking Dead” video games
Every now and then Nick or I will unleash the “Sci-fi, geek, nerdy, video game, tech” sides to our personalities. So you best believe I got excited with two of April’s new video game releases. Why…because they feature strong men of color. Video…
5 Major League Baseball Players to Watch in 2012
The 2012 MLB season has started and we got 5 players you need to be on the look out for this year. Batter Up! Oh and if you got 10 additional minutes, you can watch a video of Yoenis Cespedes of the Oakland Athletics…