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In this podcast, Cypher Avenue founders Ocky Williams and Nick Delmacy discuss the Online dating, the dating app Tinder and how your popular online presence could be hindering your dating endeavors.
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Thank you for making this particular podcast, I needed to hear this especially at this point in my life and at this moment. I like the honest you two have and that is rare in the gay world, where everyone has to be perfection. Keep more pod cast like this coming, much love.
1. I think 50 Cent is sexy as f#$k.
2. The “Online Roulette” shit Nick mentioned…”ughhllll…I’m just looking to be friends first” LOL Yes its true, dudes do that shit so that they can still play the field and potentially find something better. I’ve always thought that was a big issue with the gay populace in general, is majority are always lookin for “The Next Best Thing”. Str8 ppl do it to, but not nearly with the fervor that gay dudes do it. Almost like we’re supposed to be non-committal.
3. When I was on online apps, I made it a habit to see how “popular” certain ppl were and who we knew “mutually”. Badoo shows who knows who via FB (whether you are still friends with said ppl or not) which “helped” me eliminate certain dudes from jump. There were certain ppl that I was formerly associated with that I didnt like for whatever reasons. If someone I found interesting was friends with said person(s), I assume that Birds of a Feather, Flock Together, and passed. It couldve been that they befriended on a whim eons ago, and now don’t talk, but the fact that they continue to have said person on their friend list says to me…
A. You keep them “In the Back Pocket” on your Friends list to oggle pics and/or possibly hit up sometime in the future or…
B. You have SO many friends on your FB List that you can’t keep up with who you do and don’t chat with anymore.
Both scenarios are a no go in my book. I’ve never been interested in “The Popular” dude. I like someone who is low key and stays to themselves, much like myself.
4. The tat thing I definitely understand @Nick. I’ve stated numerous times on here before, I’m not a fan of pretentious, arrogant dudes, and numerous gaudy tats (In MY mind) symbolizes someone that is a showoff. Ocky made an excellent point tho (and you as well, I believe) that that “stereotyping” can actually fuck you up in the end and cause you to miss out on a potentially good dude. Muhfuka like me should know better. Everyone think Im an arrogant, mean, unapproachable asshole, and I’m one of the nicest, nerdiest dudes in the world. I just have a mean ass face.
Ima need you and Ocky to understand and accept that 50 is not hot.
I totally agree with @nick with the whole ogling thing. That is a major turn off; man to man or man to woman.
Still waiting for the inside the mind of
Nick Delmacy part 3 podcast.
This had the best playlist of all the podcasts.I heard a good bit of my own music collection in there.
I encourage everyone to check out Power if they have not.I call it and Empire cousins.Power has been really on the ball with each ep and story arc.
This was a really good one. Def came across as us being let into hearing a conversation between friends. I think it’s great that you guys have progressively become more open to sharing more of ur personal experiences.
1. 50 cent is not hot.
2. Good job @nick for admitting and owning ur own flaws and preconceived notions.
3. Leave Omari’s name out ur mouth. Wouldnt want u to suffer a nasty, accidental fall…
4. I have a major left swipe habit, but I’ve started to slow down since a right swipe doesnt equal a gay wedding.
For real tho, the problem isnt the ‘app’, its the jadedness of the gay community. Like I always say, it’s the ‘red flag hunt’ that does everyone in. That whole ‘friends first’ bullsht is about mofos thinking that ‘this dude aint gonna be sht either’. I just wanna know why it’s such a big deal to move forward. Im like @nick in that im trying to see wasup in person n not play mssg tag if im interested.
Idk..Im abt to go back str8 unless @ocky tells me Prince D has a friend in NY looking.