Dating & Sex

Does HIV Really Matter Anymore? 

Cypher Avenue has written many posts about HIV / AIDS awareness in communities of color, so we know the statistics. Some stats may have been eye openers; however I have been seeing negative stats for years. So when it comes to new surveys or new information concerning homosexual men and HIV transmission, my attitude is somewhat “okay, what else is new?”

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Top 15 Reasons You ARE NOT Relationship Material 

Do single gay men want long term relationships or are they just in love with the idea having one? Are men just captivated with the concept of the fantasy man that will come and fulfill their dreams? When gay men say out loud “long term relationship” do they really mean “non-committed companionship”? Well let’s just say it’s the former and not the latter, the problem is many men don’t realize they’re not ready and are not relationship material. Could this be you?

Dating & Sex

I Get So Weak… 

My own experience dating men has been limited. I will admit having tried to meet guys on websites and even using two popular social apps that sound like an action words. There was no success though I made an earnest attempt. However, when I think about my past relationships there are four men that make me weak.

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Eight Great Date Ideas 

Sometimes while dating or in relationships things can get habitual and mundane. Before you know it, it’s the usually dinner and a movie then back to the house for drinks. Yawn. Why not turn it up a notch and do something different from your normal weekend routine? Whether dating or in a relationship, it always helps to try to make things fun and interesting.

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Why Some Straight Men Are Romantically or Sexually Attracted to Other Men 

The following scenario happens many times: A man comes into my office, referred by his own therapist and clutching coming-out literature that the therapist has given him. He explains that his therapist has tried, unsuccessfully, to help him come out as gay or bisexual, but even though he’s had sex with other men or gone to gay porn websites, he insists that he isn’t gay