How Do You Get Ready For a Date?

By OckyDub | Posted Jan 22 2017 | 15 Comments  

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How do you get ready for a date? I think it goes without saying that a shower or possible shave is obvious, but what are some quirkier, or out of the box things you personally do to get yourself ready for a date?

For example, I think it may be helpful to give yourself a quick pulse check to determine your confidence or ‘internal sexiness factor’.

Do you have certain ‘date’ cologne you wear? If you’re planning on getting lucky, do you wear certain underwear or perhaps trim your armpits, chest or pubic hairs?


Personally when I’ve wanted to focus on dating and not just ‘hooking up’, I would masturbate beforehand so my lustful libido would be temporarily depleted.

I’ve also given myself ‘pep talks’ before I’ve left the house and in route to the date location, telling myself that, “no matter what, I will have a good time and enjoy my night, regardless of how the date goes.”

Meaning even if the date is not a love connection, I would still make it a point to enjoy my evening even after the date is over; just enjoying a solo night on the town.

It seems the gay dating landscape has a multitude of dating explosive mines on the field that have been planted. What are some of things you do to get ready for a date?




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  1. ControlledXaos
    ControlledXaos | January 22nd, 2017

    I'll fast forward to like date 3. At date 3 I'm probably going to do a lot more preparations than the first and depending on how date 2 went, will determine how thorough that preparation will be.

    Now, I'm not one to really wear cologne often but I will on occasion. Negative on the special undies. Ain't nobody got time to be impressing folks with drawz. Or at least I don't. I'll probably do the pre date JO on date 3 though. This is mainly because I may want something to progress physically but then, I may be ok without it. Which means, date 4 will probably be physical.

    As for just the first two dates, I'm definitely going to try to make the best of it, even if I don't really feel the dude like that. I try to do a date 2 if there's an inkling if the guy is okay. If we are just not into each other then it's cool going on our separate ways. I'm also not the type who shades people so if the date doesn't work out, and I see you in public, I can still say hi.

  2. RolandG
    RolandG | January 23rd, 2017

    I don't own sexy underwear and if I did, I don't have the sexy body to put in them so scratch that.

    Depending on how long I expect the date to be, I may try and measure my food intake. So if it's a coffee date only, i will eat a full meal. If we have plans that may make the date hours long or I think I might be going back to his place, I don't want to eat a full meal because, well, i'm not trying to introduce him to all of my normal habits so soon.

    I actually, track the time because I hate nothing more than to be late to anything so i plan my day so that i show up at the spot at least 10 minutes ahead of time.

    Y'all better write this stuff down because Ro Ro don't spit wisdom too often on here.

  3. acessential
    acessential | January 23rd, 2017

    I do the usual. Shower, shave, wear nice clothes.

    The most "unique" thing I do is come up with conversation topics. If we had been talking for a while through texts and what not, I usually have a general idea of what topics they find interesting. I'll pay attention to the news, media, and make note of things they may find interesting. I combine that with my interests and try to have different things in mind so we're not talking about general boring shit like "How was the ride here?" "How was work?" I want something deeper.

  4. BlackguyExecutive
    BlackguyExecutive | January 23rd, 2017

    I do all of the usual things stated previously. I usually brush up on what we are doing making mental talking points. It is a habit I have picked up in my line of work. Depending on how the forecast the date, I make take additional preparation, the three S's usually some it up, shit, shower, and shave. I am sorta a details person and really quick to make sense of my first impression. I always look at what kind of shoes someone is wearing, particularly in a first impression kind of situation.

    For me on dates, I always do a little research, if we going to a special restaurant, I try and know something about it. If we going to the movies, I will read the reviews, if we going to a bar or out somewhere I research it, I hate being in loud places on dates, I never want to be in a situation where we are screaming at each other because it is loud. As you can tell I am "THE PLANNER"

  5. | January 23rd, 2017

    body shave, push ups, flattering outfit (this is hard – deciding conservative, or sexy) buy alcohol and weed just in case we come back to my place.

  6. King Zorro
    King Zorro | January 23rd, 2017

    Shave, Play 90s rap music, smoke in the shower, masturbate (so I won't get eager during the date), FaceTime a friend to make sure I look sharp, take a shot, then head out. I never overplan dates because it makes it less fun and seems like you're taking a test instead of getting to know someone. I'm really outgoing so if he doesn't like my personality, my cologne or the way I dress, it's a dud lol

  7. Infinite_loop
    Infinite_loop | January 25th, 2017


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  9. Lean Lantern
    Champagne_Papi | February 6th, 2017

    Regular degular stuff…shower, shit, alphet. Either than that, I always make sure to cut my nails (long nails period are always a no go) or if they're already cut, get rid of any dirt under them. Hands are probably second thing I notice on a person.

    Only other thing is I brush my teeth and rinse with mouthwash right before I get out of the car; teeth fetish, sorry.

  10. OhSheit
    OhSheit | February 6th, 2017

    None of the dates I've been on were planned dates. Typically it went like this: let's chill at my place turned into okay, Ī'm hungry let's go to this bomb restaurant even though you aren't dressed well and didn't plan on spending cash. So I end up going along and looking bummy. Recently I went on a date in Nov. after work which was a bad idea because I caught a cold and I wasn't fresh – me and dude still chat so I guess it wasn't a big deal.

    If I go on another date that's well planned I will do the basics I'm sure. But it's also cool to know that during certain circumstances some dudes don't give af.

  11. SmartMan123 | February 6th, 2017

    I would prepare for it all….who knows how the night may go. I would definitely have topics, potentially personal, prepared just to see how the mindset of the person with whom I am going out with. Likes, dislikes, personality. I'm a serious person so it would help if the person is gumorous but down to eartg and can understand who I am. Sex happens, it happens.

  12. BlackVictory
    BlackVictory | March 14th, 2017

    I try to have energy on a date. Hate it when the other person looks sleepy from a long day of work or seems a bit disintersted early on. People are attracted to energy, it really does change the mood no matter how the date goes.

  13. OhSheit
    OhSheit | March 16th, 2017

    Ah, that's a problem I have. I get itis a lot but on a date or just hanging out with someone new I try to be more energized and chatty than I normally am

  14. takeyourmeds91
    takeyourmeds91 | March 21st, 2017

    Nothing special, just basics, wash my ass, quick shape-up trim if need be, etc. Wine and music while I get ready. Brush teeth just before I leave.

    I'm a more chill person in general so I make sure to keep high energy while I'm out.

    For those that smoke, please don't show up on a date with me and you're not a functional tree smoker…that shit is unattractive af. I shouldn't be able to tell that you're high (most times I can anyway bc I used to smoke but if you keep up with the night I'm not mad).

  15. TavaresJamal | June 3rd, 2017

    I’m always on point when preparing and going on a date. Its special occasion especially when someone ask you out. Therefore, I give the best experience of who I am. I usually prep having a glass of wine and listening to some sexy music. I prep if you kno what I mean lol always got to be prepared just in case, take a shower longer than usual, and shave/trim if I need too. I always wear nice sexy underwear red/or bright color because they make me feel extra sexy that means during my date I’ll be more flirty slightly. Dudes like excitement and fun which I definitely bring. I’m alwYs dressed well head to toe. And smell good that he just wants to smell me ha! I have great energy during the date and very social. I communicate on all levels if it’s good date then he can look forward to date #2. But it will definitely be a sexy good time.

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